We first make our habits.
Then our habits make us.
7 Habits of Highly Effective People are the key to building our discipline in regular life.
- Habits form our characters.
- They constantly express our characters.
- They determine our levels of effectiveness or ineffectiveness.
The 7 habits are based on Principles.
A principle is the actual reality of the way things are. (law of gravity)
Character
What we are, communicates far more eloquently than anything we say or do.
Paradigm and paradigm shifts
- Paradigms are our mental representations of reality,
- Our idea is Of the way things are.
- They come from our brought ups,
- Through social conditioning,
- and from our Personal experiences
- Assumption of the reality, the way we see it.
Emotional Bank Accounts
Emotional Bank Accounts
- A small act of kindness
- The Golden Rule (treat the people the way you want to be treated)
- Apologize first, even if you do not think you are in the wrong
- Clarify expectations
- Keeping commitments
- Do not gossip and talk behind the backs of others
- Give Effective feedback
Effectiveness
the ultimate p/pc balance is to increase the quality of life
P = Production of desired results
Pc = Production capability
The balancing is an ongoing process
- Learning continuously to remain relevant and
- keep up with the ever-changing world around us
- Train our minds to keep them sharp, clear, and alert
- Constant development of
- Body
- Mind and
- Spirit
Maturity continuum
- Maturity is a process leading to growth and development
- Continuum is the continuous incremental nature of growth and progression
- Maturity continuum is the model used to explain the 7 habits
What are the 7 habits of highly Effective People
Line of Maturity
Habit 1 Stephen Covey 7 Habits
Be Proactive – 1 of 7 Habits
- You are the creative force of your life (Driving seats/creating your future) – you are the programmer.
- Take responsibility for your life
- Your greatest power = the power of choice (do not let life happen to you, let life happen for you)
- The circle of influence and concern
Attitude Is by Choice Not by Default
Habit 2
Begin with the End in Mind – 2 of 7 Habits
- Funeral thought experiment – write the program
- What have you done?What was your character?What goals did you accomplish throughout your life?
- What principles you have lived in?
- Do not go with the flow – create your own life
- All things are created twice
- Personal mission statement
Personal mission statement
- What do you want to be like?
- What do you want to achieve?
- What are your values and principles?
Habit 3
Put First Thing First – 3 of 7 Habits
(Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least)
- Organize your life around habit 2 (Run the program)
- Thinking about your roles in life
- Develop your discipline and commitment
Choose to Grow (Put First Things First)
Action Priority Matrix
Be effective with people
emphasizes the significance of building meaningful relationships, effective communication, and understanding others.
- Listening actively to others.
- Empathizing and understanding different perspectives.
- Building positive and collaborative relationships.
- Prioritizing communication and connection over mere activity.
Be efficient with things
the importance of managing time, resources, and tasks efficiently.
- Using time management techniques to prioritize tasks.
- Implementing efficient workflows and processes.
- We are embracing technology and tools to increase productivity.
- Avoid unnecessary complexity and focus on simplicity.
Habit 4
Think Win/Win – 4 of 7 Habits
- Abundance Mindset
- Do not always think in Dichotomies (Contrast)
- Be empathetic
- Identify any problems or concerns
- Identify outcomes that are mutually beneficial to both parties
- Imagine new scenarios and possibilities to achieve these
- Do not compromise, Win/Win or no Deal
- Always be thinking about emotional bank accounts first
Habit 5
Seek first to understand, then to be understood. – 5 of 7 Habits
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply. They are either speaking or preparing to speak
- Do not listen to the intent to reply
- Empathetic listening
Habit 6
Synergize – 6 of 7 Habits
- How synergy works
- Third alternative solutions (Emotional Bank account – Building (Like + Trust)
- Applications and valuing the difference (Effective people understand their own perceptual limitations and learn how to benefit from diversity)
What do you see in that picture ?
Do you see women?
what do you see, a man?
Is there a Young Woman?
How many of you see an older woman?
Reality in negotiation
- Very different ways of seeing reality
- There is one reality but many ways to see it
- We get big arguments about the facts but facts are just our perceptions
- See the world the way they see it
- There might be 10 ways to see the situation
- The only way we can try to get at that in this world is by listening to the other side.
- Synergistic relationships = 1+1 not equal to 2 , 1+1>2
Habit 7
Sharpen the Saw-7 of 7 Habits
- Continual improvement
- This is the habit of self-renewal.
- Sharpening the saw means preserving and enhancing the greater asset you have.
- It means having a balanced program for self-renewal in the four areas of your life.
